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My search here has come to a close.  

secret_lade 49F
14388 posts
1/18/2021 2:49 am
My search here has come to a close.

For a while, anyway....

The Meat Market just doesn't appeal to me any longer.

Picture it!

It's Thursday morning and I hop online read a few blogs before work and respond the comments my own.... Over in the corner it says I have 4 new messages.

Oh really! Four new messages??

Who could they be from?!?

They came from a shirtless, muscle bound torso who was emphatically demanding I share my photo with him!

Pic?

Id like a pic please

not going to fuck you without a pic

PIC


Well! Isn't he a CHARMING mother fucker!?!

My first instinct was to tell him the off. Send my charming little email about how I wouldn't let him fuck me if he had the last penis earth.... After all, I don't really need a man get off when I want .

Then I remembered....

I remembered a comment someone had left for me one time. He'd had a friend who would share pictures of her hysterectomy when guys were being douche bags like this.

While I don't have hysterectomy scars... I do have the next best thing!

I have this....



So, I sent it!

I chuckled to myself, imagining the look on this asshole's face when he sees the image of Senator Stabenow staring back at him in her glory. I pictured an angry scoff while emphatically deleting the message thread, telling himself "what a cunt".

Instead, I got this....

When can we meet?

Really??????

That's when I knew....

My time here is done. I can no longer even half heartedly consider meeting someone from this site when this is the dating pool.

When the only thing required is a pulse.....

Because, the thing is... I require more than, just a pulse. I require someone who can carry on a conversation. I require someone who has a job. I require someone who can treat others with dignity and respect. I require someone who is not married or otherwise attached.

It really isn't that much ask for....

Considering, these are the things willing give in return.

And, certainly not going find that here.

The days of the casual relationship are gone, now, afraid. I prefer be friends with my friends with benefits and not looking find myself stalked by a scorned wife or girlfriend....

topherific 61M
5209 posts
1/19/2021 5:15 pm

please stay in touch with me on FB, i kinda like you


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2021 3:43 pm

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Welcome to the other side! Finding true love or even just proper companionship on this site is akin to finding the golden ticket to Wonkas. Admittedly I have never been looking for that but I’ve seen enough over the past few decades. Taking a pause is good. The current online atmosphere is growing toxic. Hopefully the upcoming changes in the world will slowly filter down to all social media outlets and places like this. Gotta have Faith.
Toxic is a good word for it...


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2021 3:36 pm

    Quoting lyavu:
    Gal I don't blame you. Some men can be difficult
It's time for a break for me.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/19/2021 3:34 pm

    Quoting allgud69xxx:
    Unfortunately, it’s not surprising how easy it is to find those types of guys on here. Although, maybe you really have gotten him horned up with that pic ... maybe she really is his kind of thing ... (are you guilty of, like, “fake news”? )

    You know, the old ways of meeting someone, often through friends or family, both vetted that someone (to some degree, anyways) and imposed some implicit restrictions on how you could behave, because ... word might back to people you actually know. However, in the mostly-anonymous, few-repercussions environment of sites here, some feel it’s perfectly OK to show off their asshat-ness for all to see (well, for some to see, at least, and then tell the rest of us about).

    With the continuing uncertainty about the virus because of underperforming vaccine rollouts in many countries, the non-zero possibility of these more-transmissible variants becoming common and those who just don’t seem to get it, the likelihood of the general situation improving enough to reasonably be able to meet in the not-so-distant future is not confidence-inspiring, at this point.

    Put those things together, and it’s certainly not difficulty to see why the degree of willingness to tolerate the dumber shit, and shits, on here might have fallen right off the table. It takes some effort and energy to participate here, and if you have deal with this kind of moron too frequently, who would want to?

    So, if you’re not going to blog here, do we have to transition to a “community managed” character, so we can follow the (not entirely real) continuing adventures of the Spawn? No, seriously ... I’m asking ...

    Well, I’m sure you’ll be missed if you do decide to shut it down here. Not by me, mind you, but by some folks [yeah, OK, that not-the-some-folks part might not have been true ... ]
I think I'm still going to blog here... I've met some really nice people on here via the blogs, I don't want to give up on that piece. I've enjoyed being able to vent my frustrations and share my most embarrassing moments on here, anonymously.... In a lot of ways I can come to terms with the stuff that bothers me and get insight and input on it, sometimes opening my eyes to see it in a new light. And the Spawn stories! They need to be shared! Somewhere out there, there are other parents of Spawns of their own that need to know, they are not alone!


MrWrong4RghtNow 57M
2439 posts
1/18/2021 8:39 pm

Welcome to the other side! Finding true love or even just proper companionship on this site is akin to finding the golden ticket to Wonkas. Admittedly I have never been looking for that but I’ve seen enough over the past few decades. Taking a pause is good. The current online atmosphere is growing toxic. Hopefully the upcoming changes in the world will slowly filter down to all social media outlets and places like this. Gotta have Faith.

My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment


lyavu 50F
1538 posts
1/18/2021 7:52 pm

Gal I don't blame you. Some men can be difficult


allgud69xxx 50M
502 posts
1/18/2021 1:47 pm

Unfortunately, it’s not surprising how easy it is to find those types of guys on here. Although, maybe you really have gotten him horned up with that pic ... maybe she really is his kind of thing ... (are you guilty of, like, “fake news”? )

You know, the old ways of meeting someone, often through friends or family, both vetted that someone (to some degree, anyways) and imposed some implicit restrictions on how you could behave, because ... word might back to people you actually know. However, in the mostly-anonymous, few-repercussions environment of sites here, some feel it’s perfectly OK to show off their asshat-ness for all to see (well, for some to see, at least, and then tell the rest of us about).

With the continuing uncertainty about the virus because of underperforming vaccine rollouts in many countries, the non-zero possibility of these more-transmissible variants becoming common and those who just don’t seem to get it, the likelihood of the general situation improving enough to reasonably be able to meet in the not-so-distant future is not confidence-inspiring, at this point.

Put those things together, and it’s certainly not difficulty to see why the degree of willingness to tolerate the dumber shit, and shits, on here might have fallen right off the table. It takes some effort and energy to participate here, and if you have deal with this kind of moron too frequently, who would want to?

So, if you’re not going to blog here, do we have to transition to a “community managed” character, so we can follow the (not entirely real) continuing adventures of the Spawn? No, seriously ... I’m asking ...

Well, I’m sure you’ll be missed if you do decide to shut it down here. Not by me, mind you, but by some folks [yeah, OK, that not-the-some-folks part might not have been true ... ]

-- allgud69xxx

Yeah ... that's right ... I went there ..
Wanna msg, but can't - my Postbox blog Another way to say hi my Postbox


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 1:04 pm

    Quoting benard69:
    Yep there's some Bat Shit Crazies on here for sure..It's a shame!
It is a shame.... While not perfect, it wasn't always this bad.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 1:02 pm

    Quoting  :

I refuse to pay for gold this time around.... Good lord.... I could be paying premiums to be harassed by assholes who want pics and losers who want to screw Debbie Stabenow. I'd rather light a $100 bill on fire than pay for this mess.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 12:50 pm

    Quoting dogslife2live01:
    "Because, the thing is... I require more than, just a pulse. I require someone who can carry on a conversation. I require someone who has a job. I require someone who can treat others with dignity and respect."
    OMG OMG OMG OMG
    what has this site cum to! you mean i no longer can email women with my famous "come over now i need a quick fuck... and don't forget to bring the beer and chips"
    the hardest part of your blog to believe that people that consider themselves to be human can send emails like that with the expectation of a positive response!!!
He wouldn't be trying to hookup with Debbie if he was getting positive responses.... Egads!!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 12:47 pm

    Quoting merlot5555:
    ....this really is more like a flea market....lots of stuff to look at... a few to mull over .... and perhaps the occasional gem to peruse and maybe contemplate going further.... in reality odds are pretty much like real life.... and so like the rest of the unattached people in the world, the hunt continues.... a relaxed and leisurely process... for when magic happens... it usually comes unannounced.... leaving you saying.... how did this happen... oh, nevermind... the freefall is amazing...
Very well put.... Thank you.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 12:45 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    No one should stay anywhere if it makes them unhappy. Things are messed up all over the place - this space included.
    Taking a break can clear your thoughts and put things in perspective. 👍❗
That's what I'm hoping for. ..


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 12:43 pm

    Quoting flannel_light:
    I for one am getting tired of this site. I do not see it getting better with this Covid and I think it's here to stay. This is the new normal and I will meet but tired of all the buttholes on here myself.
I don't see it getting better.... Especially with marketing like "Get sex tonight!". They've completely sold out on the adult friend piece. It's all about the hookup now and guys are more than willing to pay any price for that hookup.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 12:31 pm

    Quoting luv2suk1966:
    Your post has me laughing so hard! OMG - "Can we meet?"
I honestly can't believe he would even ask that.... I have new propositions from different shirtless torso today... The struggle is real. Lol


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 12:27 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Maybe the douchebag has never heard of, or seen a pic of Senator Stabenow? Perhaps he's into older, mature women?....but then again, I doubt it
Yah.... Nope. I think he is *just* a douche bag. I could have sent him the hysterectomy scar and he would still be trying to get laid.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 12:24 pm

    Quoting big54al:
    I hope you keep blogging, even if you're not looking for someone
At the moment, I'm still continuing to blog. I do like to read what others have to say.... And I do like to make others laugh about the crazy shit that goes on in my world.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 12:17 pm

    Quoting  :

I have a new message from a new shirtless torso.... This one says "want to fuck". It conveniently feels like he may have read this post....

I do think I'm going to continue to blog, this is about the only part of this site I enjoy.


big54al 69M
2259 posts
1/18/2021 8:39 am

I hope you keep blogging, even if you're not looking for someone


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
1/18/2021 8:30 am

Maybe the douchebag has never heard of, or seen a pic of Senator Stabenow? Perhaps he's into older, mature women?....but then again, I doubt it


luv2suk1966 63M/57F
1927 posts
1/18/2021 8:12 am

Your post has me laughing so hard! OMG - "Can we meet?"

Have a great day, and be nice to one another.


flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
1/18/2021 7:48 am

I for one am getting tired of this site. I do not see it getting better with this Covid and I think it's here to stay. This is the new normal and I will meet but tired of all the buttholes on here myself.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
1/18/2021 7:25 am

No one should stay anywhere if it makes them unhappy. Things are messed up all over the place - this space included.
Taking a break can clear your thoughts and put things in perspective. 👍❗


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
1/18/2021 7:22 am

....this really is more like a flea market....lots of stuff to look at... a few to mull over .... and perhaps the occasional gem to peruse and maybe contemplate going further.... in reality odds are pretty much like real life.... and so like the rest of the unattached people in the world, the hunt continues.... a relaxed and leisurely process... for when magic happens... it usually comes unannounced.... leaving you saying.... how did this happen... oh, nevermind... the freefall is amazing...


dogslife2live01 71M

1/18/2021 7:04 am

"Because, the thing is... I require more than, just a pulse. I require someone who can carry on a conversation. I require someone who has a job. I require someone who can treat others with dignity and respect."
OMG OMG OMG OMG
what has this site cum to! you mean i no longer can email women with my famous "come over now i need a quick fuck... and don't forget to bring the beer and chips"
the hardest part of your blog to believe that people that consider themselves to be human can send emails like that with the expectation of a positive response!!!

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 6:32 am

    Quoting onelastchan00:
    What a great reply , love it
    Clearly the douche bag is also an Idiot
Why yes, yes he is.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 6:28 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you... I appreciate that. I do know that not all men on here are like this particular asshole, they just all tend to be a million miles out of reach for me.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 6:25 am

    Quoting Brownie202:
    Oh you don't instantly want to meet any and all men who write want to fuck? No to the men who say want to meet tonight? How can any woman resist that I don't understand. Just kidding.
It was hard for me, with the quivering loins and all.... But, I resisted temptation. Lol


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
1/18/2021 6:24 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I could feel my penis shrinking when I saw that pic. I heard some expert saying that when this Covid shit is finally under control, we will experience the greatest explosion of people out meeting and interacting than ever before seen, similar to the end of the Spanish flu. So, you might wanna hang on a bit longer...... and carry plenty of lube..
When I see the COVID thing come to an end, I'll revisit my decision. I don't see that happening any time soon, though....


benard69 66M/66F  

1/18/2021 6:09 am

Yep there's some Bat Shit Crazies on here for sure..It's a shame!


onelastchan00 54F  
4525 posts
1/18/2021 6:02 am

What a great reply , love it
Clearly the douche bag is also an Idiot

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Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
1/18/2021 5:34 am

Oh forgot the whole virus thing going on. Plus my unhealed injury. Like I am going to meet.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
1/18/2021 5:33 am

Oh you don't instantly want to meet any and all men who write want to fuck? No to the men who say want to meet tonight? How can any woman resist that I don't understand. Just kidding.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


mc_justmc 63M

1/18/2021 4:15 am

I could feel my penis shrinking when I saw that pic. I heard some expert saying that when this Covid shit is finally under control, we will experience the greatest explosion of people out meeting and interacting than ever before seen, similar to the end of the Spanish flu. So, you might wanna hang on a bit longer...... and carry plenty of lube..


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